You’ve Got a Friend in Me…

6 Jul

We have to say goodbye to our dog today.  I’m trying to type this all out now because I know I won’t be able to talk about it for a while afterwards.

Abby has been our crazy pooch for the past 9 1/2 years.  We have had lots of trials & tribulations with her, but in the end, she has been an awesome dog & we are all sad to let her go.

But she is sick.  Canine lymphoma was a shock for us in April.  We knew that we couldn’t & wouldn’t pay for extensive chemotherapy, so we knew her time would be short.  Though the past few months have been frustrating at times (as a result of the medication she’s been on), it has been so great to be able to ease into this goodbye.

And her time has come today.  She does not want to eat anymore.  She is having a lot of trouble moving around.  It is clear that her life is nearing it’s end whether we help her or not; we just want her to be in the least pain possible for the shortest amount of time.

The most difficult part of this whole process has been trying to explain everything to Ella.  Ella & Abby are best buds.  From the moment we brought Ella home from the hospital, Abby has been by Ella’s side.  Always gentle, protective, sweet.  Abby has sat through Ella decorating her & dressing her up, tripping on her, etc.  She has been nothing but patient with the girls; we could not have asked for a better pet.

We have tried to be as open & honest with Ella as possible about this whole process.  Talking about death in any capacity with a child is difficult no matter what, but trying to find the balance between being honest & protecting her little heart has been quite a task.  She’s asked a lot of questions, and not just about Abby dying, but other animals & people, too.  I think she understands, at least for the most part.  She doesn’t want Abby to die, but she also doesn’t want Abby to be sick.  I told her that sometimes it is difficult to make the right choice.

She told me her heart is sad.

She gave Abby a hug.

And then she asked if we could get a hamster.

Thanks for being such a great dog, Abby.  You will be missed so much.

2 Responses to “You’ve Got a Friend in Me…”

  1. CJGEISZ July 7, 2012 at 8:14 am #

    You all handled that beautifully. Love Ella’s comment – kids are so resilient. (Hate to think what she will ask for when we die!) Remember what hamsters are like, Becca.

  2. kmtdharden July 8, 2012 at 7:39 pm #

    Beautiful post, Becca! I can’t imagine how hard it was to say goodbye to Abby and also explain it to Ella. You’re a great mom!!

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